Emily Zeller Enneagram Expert and Identity Consultant

Hi, I’m Emily Zeller.

I’m an LMFT, Enneagram consultant, wife, and mom of three daughters living in Pittsburgh. And for years, I was the poster child for quiet exhaustion.

On the outside, I was capable and deeply invested in everyone I loved. On the inside? I was overextending myself, constantly using helping as a way to hold relationships together. I was tying my worth to closeness, confusing intensity with intimacy, and abandoning myself in the name of connection.

Discovering my Enneagram type (I am a one-to-one (sexual) Enneagram Two) changed everything. I finally saw my over-giving and my intensity not as flaws, but as intelligent strategies I’d developed to feel safe.

Now, I use the Enneagram integrated with attachment theory and nervous system insights to help high-functioning women like you. I am here to walk alongside you as you find the courage to stop abandoning yourself, reclaim your boundaries, and build a powerful sense of self-trust.

I can't wait to meet the wholehearted version of you.

My approach is focused on…

  • We will go deeper than personality typing by integrating frameworks like attachment theory and nervous-system awareness to help you understand the deeper why behind all your patterns.

  • You and your journey are unique. I provide fully customized guidance. I don’t use scripts, templates, and absolutely no one-size-fits-all advice.

  • We focus on how your Enneagram motivations actively show up and impact your real-life relationships with your partner, family, and colleagues, not just theoretical patterns.

  • I view your current behaviors as intelligent, adaptive strategies you developed to keep yourself safe, rather than judging them as flaws that need to be fixed.

Explore Your Enneagram

  • I really enjoyed this intensive with Emily!

    From the very beginning, she was kind, welcoming, and made me feel heard. I really appreciated her intentional questions and suggestions for me. I felt seen and encouraged. I really appreciated the detailed follow-up emails that summarized what we talked about and gave specific actions steps. I refer to these emails often and know it's specially tailored to me and my ways of healing and growing.

Listen Now

Listen in on my conversation with the Typology podcast to talk about the heart of the Enneagram Two. Specifically how desire, boundaries, and the need to be needed shape our relationships. Tune in below or wherever you get your podcasts.

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