Emily Zeller Enneagram Expert and Identity Consultant

Hi, I’m Emily Zeller.

A Certified Enneagram Consultant for high-functioning women.

I'm an Enneagram consultant, LMFT, wife, and mom of three daughters living in Pittsburgh. And for years, I was the poster child for quiet exhaustion.

On the outside, I was capable and deeply invested in everyone I loved. On the inside? I was overextending myself, constantly using helping as a way to hold relationships together. I was tying my worth to closeness, confusing intensity with intimacy, and abandoning myself in the name of connection.

Discovering my Enneagram type (I am a one-to-one (sexual) Enneagram Two) changed everything. I finally saw my over-giving and my intensity not as flaws, but as intelligent strategies I’d developed to feel safe.

Now, I use the Enneagram integrated with attachment theory and nervous system insights to help high-functioning women like you. I am here to walk alongside you as you find the courage to stop abandoning yourself, reclaim your boundaries, and build a powerful sense of self-trust.

I can't wait to meet the wholehearted version of you.

    • – Certified Enneagram Consultant (CP Academy)

    • Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) — PA, OH, IL – Certified Perinatal Mental Health Professional (PMH-C)

    • Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Level 2

    • Gottman Treating Affairs and Trauma Certified

    • Child-Parent Psychotherapy, certified

    • Intensively trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

    • M.S., Marriage and Family Therapy, East Carolina University

    • 13+ years in clinical practice as the founder of Zeller & Co. Therapy

My approach is focused on…

  • We will go deeper than personality typing by integrating frameworks like attachment theory and nervous-system awareness to help you understand the deeper why behind all your patterns.

  • You and your journey are unique. I provide fully customized guidance. I don’t use scripts, templates, and absolutely no one-size-fits-all advice.

  • We focus on how your Enneagram motivations actively show up and impact your real-life relationships with your partner, family, and colleagues, not just theoretical patterns.

  • I view your current behaviors as intelligent, adaptive strategies you developed to keep yourself safe, rather than judging them as flaws that need to be fixed.

Explore Your Enneagram
Explore Your Enneagram

Testimonials

  • "I really enjoyed this intensive with Emily!"

    “From the very beginning, she was kind, welcoming, and made me feel heard. I really appreciated her intentional questions and suggestions for me. I felt seen and encouraged. I really appreciated the detailed follow-up emails that summarized what we talked about and gave specific actions steps. I refer to these emails often and know it's specially tailored to me and my ways of healing and growing.”

  • "The experience was fantastic!"

    ”I started with Emily through an individual intensive session. The experience was fantastic. I felt that the extended format and the pre-screening work allowed us to begin to make progress more quickly, and made me feel like I had clearer objectives and takeaways. I really appreciated the format because we were able to find a momentum in the intensive that more typically takes 4-5 sessions.”

  • "With Emily's help, I'm getting to know myself better!"

    “Emily's style is supportive but disciplined, professional but relaxed, and self-guided with guardrails. She sends follow-up resources so there is continuity and references to our conversations. I am someone who is typically very structured and objective, and she's helped me to get in touch with other parts of my personality that have been so fulfilling. With her help, I'm getting to know myself better. I would highly recommend Emily!”

  • "I highly recommend Emily!"

    Emily is very easy to talk to and has helped me identify and challenge many of my long-standing beliefs to become more confident.  She continues to encourage and challenge me each session to foster greater self-awareness and growth. Emily is truly a unique provider who cares about helping people grow and transform their lives. I cannot give her enough thanks for helping me work through this difficult time.” -P.M.

  • "Emily is in your corner!"

    “It truly feels like Emily is in your corner, advocating for your best interests every step of the way. She doesn't just help you identify problems; she empowers you to explore solutions that lead to genuine happiness and calm anxiety.”

  • "Emily helped me feel confident to manage stressful situations!"

    “What sets Emily apart is her willingness to workshop conversations with you, ensuring you feel confident and equipped to navigate stressful situations with grace and resilience.”

  • "I'm extremely grateful for Emily's support and guidance!”

    “Thanks to Emily, I've gained invaluable insights and tools that have transformed not just how I approach challenges, but how I live my life. I'm extremely grateful for her support and guidance.” -C.G.

  • "I got more out of my 4 hours with Emily than I had from years of weekly therapy!"

    "I would highly recommend Emily’s intensives. I wasn’t sure what to expect, but she walked me through the process & was caring, compassionate & non-judgemental. We were able to dig really deep during the session because she gathered a thorough history beforehand. I also really liked how she not only listened, but led the discussion in helpful directions. I got more out of my 4 hours with Emily than I had from years of weekly therapy. It was 100% worth investing in myself. I am moving forward with less anxiety and significantly more clarity." -L.R.

Listen Now

Listen in on my conversation with the Typology podcast to talk about the heart of the Enneagram Two. Specifically how desire, boundaries, and the need to be needed shape our relationships. Tune in below or wherever you get your podcasts.

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